The desire to impress and woo a girl we desire — we’ve all been there before. We have it in our minds that if only we knew the right things to do, or the right things to say, that we would be able to woo the girl that we want.
It’s a powerful driving force, after all… it’s what led you here to this page today.
And dare I say: this will be the last article you will EVER need to read on this subject.
We all have limited time, and I’m a big fan of making the most out of your time. Therefore, I’m not going to waste your time with a bunch of garbage that sounds good on paper and does little to nothing in real life.
The Elusive Obvious
So let’s get started. There is ONE thing right now that is holding you back in your quest to woo a girl. How do I know you have this affliction? To borrow the expression “the proof is in the pudding”, the mere fact that you are here today is PROOF that this devious little idea is holding you back from the success with women you want.
Let’s take a step back for a second and find out WHY exactly you want to try to woo a girl in the first place.
"Please like me. Please."
In other words, what is your ultimate goal in trying woo a girl?
While we all have different goals in finding a suitable mate, you will find that your reason will fall into wanting a girlfriend, wanting someone to have sex with, or wanting affection and validation from women. Now these impulses are all good and well, but let me ask you quite possibly the most important question of all…
Why is it that you think you NEED to woo a girl in order to get any of those things?
Because your mommy said so? Because you see it on TV and the movies? I know you don’t believe in fairy-tale happy endings, the tooth fairy, and Santa Claus anymore (I hope, heh) even if you once did as a kid… so how smart is it exactly to base your love life on some entertaining pieces of fantasy?
Don't be a ass. A horny one at that.Now you see this insidious idea that is preventing you from the success with women that you want. I’ve been coaching men on how to succeed with women in all aspects from meet to relationships for more than a decade, and this is THE elusive obvious that the vast majority of all my clients must first realize before they see any gains.
This idea that you need to woo a girl, win her affection, charm her, and an entire host of things that society says you need to do in order for you to win a girl’s heart, to sleep with her, and for her to commit to you.
"An idea. Resilient, highly contagious. Once an idea has taken hold of the brain it’s almost impossible to eradicate. An idea that is fully formed – fully understood – that sticks; right in there somewhere...... The smallest seed of an idea can grow. It can grow to define, or destroy you. "
The above quote is from the 2010 hit movie Inception, and I hope you can see now how this idea that you NEED to woo a girl, to impress her, and to attract her can lead you on a never-ending journey where you cruise around the internet for advice on how to get good at doing something that is utterly pointless.
The Shortest Distance Between 2 Points Is a Straight Line
So now that we’ve established that you do NOT need to woo a girl in order for you to accomplish your mating goals, it begs the question of what you DO need to do in order to be swimming in women in their own condominiums.
It’s quite simple really. We so often forget that mother nature is working behind the scenes to make sure that men and women mate together as much as possible. Just take a look at the news and you’ll see a ton of stories where the infatuation between two people makes them do things that are absolutely insane.
From Tiger Woods to Bill Clinton to Kobe Bryant: where you throw hundreds of millions of dollars and the presidency of the United States out the window, can there be any doubt of how strong the forces of nature are?
How many wars have been fought because of this all-consuming attraction between men and women? If there were no Helen of Troy, do you really think there would have been a Trojan war?
Trojan. Pleasure You Want. Protection You TrustOK, so with all that said, what do you need to do in order to get the girl? You need to shift your thinking from being a pleasant friend to alluring seducer.
- Be the best you that you can be
- Get into interaction with a girl
- Screen if she will be sexually involved with you
- Take the initiative of taking it physical with her
That’s it. There’s nothing else you need to do or anything else. No fancy dinners, no bouquets of flowers, no love poems, no courting for months just to hope that somewhere down the line, your needs will be met. You start with the end in mind, you waste 0 time on women who don’t want to be involved with you.
Learning how to be a fake version of yourself in order to get your needs met is not a sustainable long-term plan. To make things worse, 95% of you will not be able to maintain the facade of who you are pretending to be. Let’s be realistic too, if a girl doesn’t like who you really are… why would you be so desperate to try to be with her?
Do you really need her approval that much?
"Let me try and impress you. I'm desperate for your approval. Please like me!"The Fallacy Of Friends First When You Want To Woo A Girl
Every guy has been there before. What is the worst thing you will ever hear from a girl that you like?
“I just see you as a friend”
“I thought we were just friends”
“You’re like a brother to me”
Those words sting like a bitch. She’s dressing them up, but every guy intuitively knows what they mean. She might as well be saying one of the following:
“You have failed in your most instinctual duty as a man.”
“It is impossible for me to feel attraction for you”
“I will never have the desire to rip off your clothes or pro-create with you”
Why is it then, that guys have this retarded notion that getting to know her by trying to be friends first is a viable mating strategy? Why would you want to be anything related to a friend when “just a friend” and the friend zone is a death sentence for ever hooking up with her?
Once again, the answer is to switch your paradigm from trying to impress her to seducing her. The simple fool-proof guide to getting everything you ever wanted from women bears repeating again.
- Be the best you that you can be
- Get into interaction with a girl
- Screen if she will be sexually involved with you
- Take the initiative of taking it physical with her
Now mastering steps 2-4 are a bit out of the scope of this article. There’s a ton of useful articles over at the Natural Attraction Blog if you want more information on those steps, but the rest of this article will help you establish #1.
How To Be All You Can Be And Properly Woo A Girl
The first step in being your best self is to recognize that your best trait (after the fact that you are male) to a woman is going to be your confidence. Even mainstream thinking confirms that confidence in a guy is sexy.
The elusive obvious in this is that confidence is your natural aura when you perceive nothing is in your way. In other words, you are calm, comfortable, and don’t feel the need to be anything more than what you are.
If you are “trying” to be confident, you are doing the exact opposite of what the definition of confidence is.
I’ve even done a study before on Mathematical Proof On Why Trying To Attract Women Fails, which is an interesting read if you wish to see irrefutable mathematical proof that I’m not just randomly giving you my opinion.
If you get nothing out of this article except this one point, you will increase your success rate with women astronomically.
I had initially toyed with the idea of including a few more things that combined make about a 10% difference to your bottom-line, but I know that keeping more stuff in your head will just detract from your confidence levels.
Finding your immersed state of confidence is 90% of the game. Master that and you will be well on your way.
Where To Go From Here
If you’ve read this far, then you’ll really understand why you never need to read another article on how to woo a girl or how to impress her. What you need to learn from here on out is how to be a more effective seducer. A great place to start is with a little presentation I put together awhile back for this purpose.
It’s basically a little twist on the standard introduction you can use with any woman you meet or are introduced to. What it does is instantly shift her thinking from you’re a potential friend into you’re a potential mate. It’s also been statistically proven to attract 94% of women.
Oh, and did I mention it’s impossible to be rejected while doing this move? 
Big claims I know, but I make it a point to back up everything I say with proof. You’ll even get to see living proof of what kind of seducer you turn into halfway through the presentation
http://howtogetwithagirl.com/friends/
Now that you know the right way to woo a girl, comments, questions, and praise are all welcome below.
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